The “Copy-Pastes” in Life
By Yael Reiss
After years of suffering form a medical issue, not knowing what it was, and being unable to address it even after visits to various doctors, I finally found a doctor who accurately diagnosed the issue after only a few sentences from me. When this happened , it came as a great relief. I feel this is an extraordinary doctor. Issues that doctors diagnose are patterns of symptoms that come together. This doctor was the first one to just really listen, and so simply find the pattern in my symptoms. We tend to think of people who can find patterns in life as having extraordinary abilities. For them, it is easy and natural. It’s just playing and having fun. They cannot not see patterns in things, even if they tried. The patterns are right in front of them.
I enjoy seeing the “Copy-Pastes” in people’s lives.
When someone is talking about an everyday little predicament they had in the supermarket, or with a work colleague, or with a friend – I immediately register it with curiosity.
I then tend to do a little “internal Google search” and compare this little predicament to other little or big predicaments they have told me about in the past.
I look for the “Copy-Paste”:
What does this incident have in common with the other incidents I’ve heard about?
I may ask them: “Where in your childhood has this happened to you?” This is where I “Copy-Paste” the common theme – the gist of their predicament.
For example, if someone is terribly annoyed when being ignored in the supermarket, or by a friend, a work colleague, or a partner, or can’t stand it when her children are being ignored by their dad, I’ll ask her: “Who ignored you when you were a child?”
That’s when usually the tears will come to show us that we are in the right spot. This is the core of the matter, and now we can look into it and address the core. So simple.
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