When you find yourself trying to explain, justify, convince, over apologize, blame, try to make the other person understand you – it’s time to make a U-turn.

Whenever you find yourself aiming your attention in any way to the other person trying to get them to do something so you will feel better – it’s time to U-turn.

By U-turn I mean:
Turn 180 degrees: take your attention away from that person, and turn into YOU.

Example: if you are trying to convince someone or make them see how right you are, stop. Turn and look inside. If you are happy with what you find inside and feel right about it, just let yourself be with your own feeling and opinion about it. And that’s it.
Simple. Not complex.
Very simple.
And, if, on the other hand, you are not happy with what you find inside when you  turn inward – it is your job with yourself to do something about it. It is not the other person’s job to make you feel better, in most cases.

This takes some courage. Courage to be honest with yourself. Courage to rely on your own feelings, intuitions and opinions. Courage to be content with your own love to yourself. Courage to read your own body and your own life energy. Courage to parent yourself instead of asking the other person to parent you, in the way that your childhood parent wasn’t capable of parenting you. The courage to parent yourself in the healthy way that you needed then in your childhood, as well as now.

Copyright Yael Reiss 2023